Maithuna is the Sanskrit word for union. Maithuna is yogic sexual union. It means act or instance of uniting two or more things into one state of being or a spiritual uniting in order to bring about concord

Since a woman’s body is slower to arousal than a man’s (it is said to take at least eighteen minutes before real union can start to occur), it is necessary for the woman to influence the timing during intercourse if the partners are to become one with each other. This necessitates a real ego-loss from both partners since our society has taught the man to lead and the woman to be passive.
Even more damaging to a spiritually conscious sex life is the myth that orgasm is the summit of sexual experience. Maithuna may lead to experiences that make orgasm seem pallid by comparison, to the place of original creation where the earth emerges, cells multiply, life evolves in its many facets.

Maithuna is the art of vibrational rather than frictional sex. You may move in The Great Dance, but not until your bodies tell you that it is time. Until then sit quietly looking into each other’s eyes. Expect nothing. Make no demands. Just as waves of sound move together in resonance or discord, if the vibrations are not integrated and in harmony between you and your partner, true union is impossible to achieve yet.

Eventually you will want to be closer. It might be hours or seem like days, but since you are traveling in and out of time with no destination in mind, it doesn’t really matter. At last the need for closer contact develops. And then the shakti, divine female energy, sits on the man’s crossed legs. Bodies come close together in a sweet glow of soma. Intuitive. Knowing almost without words where and how to move but using gentle words when they come. Feeling. Becoming One as centuries wheel and time collapses on itself.

This is a meditation of self-control that aims at losing self and finding it again, the cosmic game of hide and seek that we all play in our own ways.
It is possible to stop and start over again many times. You may want to even separate, feed each other, talk, and return yet once again to sexual union.
You can sit, melded in embrace, for many hours experiencing almost infinite levels of being.

When the time comes, there will not be two of you any more. There is only a shared awareness of the movement of molecules, of being yourselves in the body of Source, of being Source itself.
Sometime an explosion permeates every atom of your consciousness until there is not even one of you any more.
You have become the universe together in the very core of your being.